Let me share with you a question I ask people who seek help in my practice. You may like to try this yourself.
“What is it that you’re not getting in life that causes concern and stops you from making your life work the way you would like it to work?”
Think about this for a minute or so. When you’ve defined this concern, focus on the consequence of what it is that you’re not getting. Describe how it looks and feels not to get what you want. How does this concern influence your life?