Publications (2019-2021)

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The Use of Mutual Learning for Relational Self-Fulfillment

Emerging interpersonal possibilities for the new year and beyond.

PSYCHOLOGY TODAY

Dec. 21, 2021

One night years ago in the mid-eighties on a snowy December evening, I was waiting to meet a friend in a tavern near Rockefeller Center. I found myself sitting at the bar next to then-Mayor Ed Koch. I said hello and introduced myself and he looked at me and said, "How am I doing?"

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Holograms, Acorns, and Self-Fulfillment

How our brain seeks relationships.

PSYCHOLOGY TODAY

Oct. 13, 2021

Each year, where I live along the Hudson River north of Manhattan, I revel in the sounds of falling acorns, each one a blueprint for a possible oak tree. How can this be?

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The Joy of Homeopathy

Mental and Emotional Healing

Selected articles 1997-2020 and media presentations

Sep. 21, 2021

What follows is my contribution, to a theoretical framework that supports

amongst many things, Homeopathy, which I believe needs an epistemological

basis to explain and advocate for its wonderful healing process.

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Legacy Poems e-Book

By Kenneth Silvestri

Selected poems

Sep. 21, 2021

Twenty three poems about growing up in Patterson, NJ and other family memories.

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The Holistic Benefits of Family Therapy

How individuality is defined by the context of our relationships.

PSYCHOLOGY TODAY

Aug. 21, 2021

Family Therapy, or “Systemic Therapy” as it is better described, is a holistic process that espouses resolving problems through relational healing.

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A Post-Pandemic Perspective Using "Warm Data"

A process to address our emotional and relational needs.

PSYCHOLOGY TODAY

Jul. 05, 2021

Our world is an ecological process that is more than the sum of its parts. It may not make sense to go back to business as usual given lessons learned from the recent . . . 

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Experience Walking Therapy

The value of harmonizing with nature.

PSYCHOLOGY TODAY

May 07, 2021

Walking outside produces a visual spontaneity that can inspire both a therapist

and client and help them resolve problems. The outdoor environment is where our ... 

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How to Harvest Possibilities: Learning From the Greatest

A metaphorical lesson from Willie Mays.

PSYCHOLOGY TODAY

Mar. 01, 2021

Willie Mays was my childhood hero. I followed his stats religiously, imitated his style of

running, and chased down fly balls with his famous patented basket catch. I realize . . 

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How to Widen Your Lens and become a Systemic Thinker and Communicator:

In memory of Paul Byers

ILLUMINATION | MEDIUM

Jan. 27, 2021

It was my mentor, Paul Byers from Columbia University, who introduced me to the

concept of Systemic Thinking and how to widen my lens. While his previous career . . . 

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Weathering Paradoxes Through Poetic Healing:

A courageous way to understand and soothe yourself during times of crisis.

PSYCHOLOGY TODAY

Jan. 04, 2021

It is no surprise that most problems emanating from within our culture can be traced to an inability to work through paradoxes. Carl Jung recognized that this was an . . .

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Why We Should Change the Noun "Gratitude" Into a Verb:

Preparing for a Joyful Holiday in This Crazy Time.

PSYCHOLOGY TODAY

Nov. 17, 2020

I like using more verbs and fewer nouns. It underscores the expression "that the name is not the thing.” Nouns and their adjectives always seem to bring up a . . .

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Similia Similibus Curentur:

The Gift of Homeopathy

ILLUMINATION | MEDIUM

Nov. 08, 2020

As part of a decision to live a life with a strong respect for communication, collaboration and seeing things systemically, it makes sense to consider a health . . .

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Why and How to Be Part of Public-School Changes:

Time to Go Beyond the Bake Sale.

PSYCHOLOGY TODAY

Oct. 5, 2020

Since we are living in unprecedented times, what is obvious is that we cannot rely on the social, political reality that was occurring prior to this pandemic. The need is to . . .

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It Is All About Relationships:

What Family Therapists Should Know and Consider About Their Approach

PERSPECTIVES | FAMILY THERAPY MAGAZINE

Sept./Oct. 2020, pp 44-45

Family therapy, or “systemic therapy,” as it is better described, is a holistic process that espouses to resolve problems through relational healing, but is it practiced that way?

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Smooth Sailing:

The Freedom of Forgiveness in this time of Crisis

ILLUMINATION | MEDIUM

August 22, 2020

In the book Forgive For Good: A Proven Prescription For Health and Happiness, Stanford Professor Fred Luskin emphasizes a forgiveness methodology based on . . .

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Healing and Strengthening Significant Relationships:

An Ecological Framework for Couples Therapy.

PSYCHOLOGY TODAY

August 16, 2020

Significant relationships are a process, a union that comes to fruition through mutual learning. It is a systemic journey where each moment is simultaneously part of . . .

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How to Be in Harmony and Sustain our Interdependency: 

Lessons from Aikido

ILLUMINATION | MEDIUM

July 28, 2020

Morihei Ueshiba’s portrait hangs above the kamiza, a place of honor in the front of our Dojo’s practice area, as it does in all Aikido Dojos internationally. He was born in . . .

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An Ecology of Relationships: The importance of mutual learning.

PSYCHOLOGY TODAY

June 24, 2020

When I was a graduate student at Columbia University, I always carried Gregory Bateson’s book, Steps to an Ecology of Mind* with me. In several chapters, Bateson used . . .

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A Way to Create Needed Change: How to make and sustain a personal contribution to this time of transformation.

PSYCHOLOGY TODAY

May 24, 2020

I am a firm believer that the major problems of the world arise, as anthropologist Gregory Bateson profoundly pointed out, from “the difference between the way nature works . . .

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Collaboration is Contagious: The rewards of mutual learning and understanding our interdependency.

MEDIUM

April 5, 2020

Given the recent pandemic and the challenges that we will all be facing for a long time to come, there is a new needed paradigm to communicate and take care of each other. I am quite sure you have heard people say to you, "let's be partners." How successful have these partnerships been in your life? An alternative to being "partners"is to be "collaborators."

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The Map Is Surely Not the Territory: Implications of what we can learn from COVID-19.

PSYCHOLOGY TODAY

March 16, 2020 (Ongoing Column #17)

During a recent tai chi class, we had a discussion of how the form we all practice at the same time manifests itself within each participant. In other words, how do our individual experiences come together to create this incredible unity that we all feel in different yet similar ways?

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Double Binds: Damned If You Dare and Damned If You Don't

PSYCHOLOGY TODAY

February 2020 (Ongoing Column #16)

Being inspired fills you with the urge to be creative. It is a way to view the world as an interdependent aesthetic experience. Inspiration allows you to be mindful and see things in context rather than depending on content.

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Dealing with Stress: More than ever, it is time to take care of ourselves and each other.  

HOMEOPATHY TODAY, pp 40-41

WINTER 2019-2020

Our emotional well-being is extremely dependent on how we deal with "stress" and its ensuing patterns of fear and anxiety. Stress—whether it's brought on by busy winter holidays, dreary wintry weather, or disturbing world events—can undermine our health and relationships.

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Be Inspired to Stretch Your Perceptual Edges

PSYCHOLOGY TODAY

January 2020  (Ongoing Column #15)

Being inspired fills you with the urge to be creative. It is a way to view the world as an interdependent aesthetic experience. Inspiration allows you to be mindful and see things in context rather than depending on content.

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Surely, We Need Not Only to Be in Harmony But to Sustain it

PSYCHOLOGY TODAY

December 2019 (Ongoing Column #14)

I have been a student of Aikido, a martial art based on peace and harmony, for the past thirty years. What I learned on the mat during classes, has helped me, more importantly in my everyday interactions

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Ditch Linear Thinking: Use peripheral vision to create solutions.

PSYCHOLOGY TODAY

October 2019 (Ongoing Column #13)

A common theme in my practice, as with many psychotherapists, is the presenting problem of not being satisfied with life, which in most cases leads to different degrees of "anxiety" and/or "depression."

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Overcoming Doubt, Understanding How It Comes About

PSYCHOLOGY TODAY

September 2019 (Ongoing Column #12)

Reframing the meaning of yourself without doing it yourself.

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Walking the Path of Beginner's Mind

PSYCHOLOGY TODAY

August 2019 (Ongoing Column #11)

 A lesson from my auto mechanic along the river's edge.

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Who Do You Think You Are?

PSYCHOLOGY TODAY

July 2019 (Ongoing Column #10)

There is a mystical energy in our family systems!

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The Tao of Self-Fulfillment: A systemic framework to better connect to our world

PSYCHOLOGY TODAY

June 2019 (Ongoing Column #9)

"How wonderful that we have met with a paradox. Now we have some hope of making progress."       — Niels Bohr

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The Ecology of Improvisation: A way of mutual learning

PSYCHOLOGY TODAY

May 2019 (Ongoing Column #8)

The Art of Is: Improvising As A Way Of Life; by Stephen Nachmanovitch (New World Library: Novato, Calif., 2019).

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Change Is Always Changing: Revisit how to create new possibilities

PSYCHOLOGY TODAY

April 2019 (Ongoing Column #07)

Revisit how to create new possibilities.

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The Ecology of Breathing: Enhancing Your Cuddle Hormone

PSYCHOLOGY TODAY

March 2019 (Ongoing Column #06)

The benefits of managing stress through mindful breathing.

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"Love: The Word is Not the Thing"

PSYCHOLOGY TODAY

January 28, 2019 (Ongoing Column #05)

How can a loaf of bread help with understanding the complexity of relationships?