Self-Fulfillment

"Your beliefs become your thoughts, your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits, your habits become your values, your values become your destiny.”

- Mahatma Gandhi

Over the past thirty years I have worked with many people looking to make changes and resolve problems. I have come to realize that it is all about Self-Fulfillment. How I go about facilitating those who seek my help is to encourage and stress the need to be in the present. This includes the following questions. What are you not getting at this moment in your life that causes you concern? Have you widened your perspective relevant to this concern? Do you know what you need to change? Are you taking things personally and making assumptions about what may be hindering you to resolve your problems?

Mahatma Gandhi once said that "Your beliefs become your thoughts, your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits, your habits become your values, your values become your destiny.” It is essential in this process to stay in the present to reach your destiny. You cannot change the past. Your concerns are a result of your inability to make meaningful changes. Gaining perspective is to go back to your original intent or desire that is at the core of your concern.

Once you recognize this you then need to create a supportive environment or context, one that encourages mutual learning and respect with your relationships. This can include sharing and celebrating possibilities through artistic expression, be it poetry, meditation or any form of art, or mind/ body exercises like Qigong, Aikido, Yoga etc.

This is what leads to Self-Fulfillment and increased esteem. It is holistic, meaning each effort you expend is interconnected and enhances the wholeness that is you. Remember, like any ecological system, you can always adjust and eventually amend that initial concern into one of mindful success. I invite you to join me in this exciting journey and allow me to guide you through this worthwhile process. My office number is 973-214-0540 (a version of this blog will appear in my column for the Tuxedo Park Magazine December, 2017).