Dr. Kenneth Silvestri, Ed.D, CCH
Psychotherapist | Certified Classical Homeopath
Recent Publications*
*Dr. Silvestri has published over 100 articles and chapters.
How to Harvest Possibilities: Learning From the Greatest
A metaphorical lesson from Willie Mays.
PSYCHOLOGY TODAY
Mar. 01, 2021
Willie Mays was my childhood hero. I followed his stats religiously, imitated his style of
running, and chased down fly balls with his famous patented basket catch. I realize . .
How to Widen Your Lens and become a Systemic Thinker and Communicator:
In memory of Paul Byers
ILLUMINATION | MEDIUM
Jan. 27, 2021
It was my mentor, Paul Byers from Columbia University, who introduced me to the
concept of Systemic Thinking and how to widen my lens. While his previous career . . .
Weathering Paradoxes Through Poetic Healing:
A courageous way to understand and soothe yourself during times of crisis.
PSYCHOLOGY TODAY
Jan. 04, 2021
It is no surprise that most problems emanating from within our culture can be traced to an inability to work through paradoxes. Carl Jung recognized that this was an . . .
Why We Should Change the Noun "Gratitude" Into a Verb:
Preparing for a Joyful Holiday in This Crazy Time.
PSYCHOLOGY TODAY
Nov. 17, 2020
I like using more verbs and fewer nouns. It underscores the expression "that the name is not the thing.” Nouns and their adjectives always seem to bring up a . . .
Similia Similibus Curentur:
The Gift of Homeopathy
ILLUMINATION | MEDIUM
Nov. 08, 2020
As part of a decision to live a life with a strong respect for communication, collaboration and seeing things systemically, it makes sense to consider a health . . .
Why and How to Be Part of Public-School Changes:
Time to Go Beyond the Bake Sale.
PSYCHOLOGY TODAY
Oct. 5, 2020
Since we are living in unprecedented times, what is obvious is that we cannot rely on the social, political reality that was occurring prior to this pandemic. The need is to . . .
It Is All About Relationships:
What Family Therapists Should Know and Consider About Their Approach
PERSPECTIVES | FAMILY THERAPY MAGAZINE
Sept./Oct. 2020, pp 44-45
Family therapy, or “systemic therapy,” as it is better described, is a holistic process that espouses to resolve problems through relational healing, but is it practiced that way?
Smooth Sailing:
The Freedom of Forgiveness in this time of Crisis
ILLUMINATION | MEDIUM
August 22, 2020
In the book Forgive For Good: A Proven Prescription For Health and Happiness, Stanford Professor Fred Luskin emphasizes a forgiveness methodology based on . . .
Healing and Strengthening Significant Relationships:
An Ecological Framework for Couples Therapy.
PSYCHOLOGY TODAY
August 16, 2020
Significant relationships are a process, a union that comes to fruition through mutual learning. It is a systemic journey where each moment is simultaneously part of . . .
How to Be in Harmony and Sustain our Interdependency
Lessons from Aikido
ILLUMINATION | MEDIUM
July 28, 2020
Morihei Ueshiba’s portrait hangs above the kamiza, a place of honor in the front of our Dojo’s practice area, as it does in all Aikido Dojos internationally. He was born in . . .
An Ecology of Relationships
The importance of mutual learning.
PSYCHOLOGY TODAY
June 24, 2020
When I was a graduate student at Columbia University, I always carried Gregory Bateson’s book, Steps to an Ecology of Mind* with me. In several chapters, Bateson used . . .
A Way to Create Needed Change
How to make and sustain a personal contribution to this time of transformation.
PSYCHOLOGY TODAY
May 24, 2020
I am a firm believer that the major problems of the world arise, as anthropologist Gregory Bateson profoundly pointed out, from “the difference between the way nature works . . .
April 5, 2020
Given the recent pandemic and the challenges that we will all be facing for a long time to come, there is a new needed paradigm to communicate and take care of each other. I am quite sure you have heard people say to you, “let’s be partners.” How successful have these partnerships been in your life? An alternative to being “partners” is to be “collaborators.”
March 16, 2020
(Ongoing Column #17)
During a recent tai chi class, we had a discussion of how the form we all practice at the same time manifests itself within each participant. In other words, how do our individual experiences come together to create this incredible unity that we all feel in different yet similar ways?
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/wider-lens/202003/the-map-is-surely-not-the-territory
February 2020
(Ongoing Column #16)
Being inspired fills you with the urge to be creative. It is a way to view the world as an interdependent aesthetic experience. Inspiration allows you to be mindful and see things in context rather than depending on content.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/wider-lens/201912/be-inspired-stretch-your-perceptual-edges
WINTER 2019-2020
Our emotional well-being is extremely dependent on how we deal with “stress” and its ensuing patterns of fear and anxiety. Stress—whether it’s brought on by busy winter holidays, dreary wintry weather, or disturbing world events—can undermine our health and relationships.
January 2020
(Ongoing Column #15)
Being inspired fills you with the urge to be creative. It is a way to view the world as an interdependent aesthetic experience. Inspiration allows you to be mindful and see things in context rather than depending on content.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/wider-lens/201912/be-inspired-stretch-your-perceptual-edges
December 2019
(Ongoing Column #14)
I have been a student of Aikido, a martial art based on peace and harmony, for the past thirty years. What I learned on the mat during classes, has helped me, more importantly in my everyday interactions.
October 2019
(Ongoing Column #13)
A common theme in my practice, as with many psychotherapists, is the presenting problem of not being satisfied with life, which in most cases leads to different degrees of “anxiety” and/or “depression.”
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/wider-lens/201910/ditch-linear-thinking
September 2019
(Ongoing Column #12)
Reframing the meaning of yourself without doing it yourself.
August 2019
(Ongoing Column #11)
A lesson from my auto mechanic along the river's edge.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/wider-lens/201907/walking-the-path-beginner-s-mind
July 2019
(Ongoing Column #10)
There is a mystical energy in our family systems!
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/wider-lens/201906/who-do-you-think-you-are
June 2019
(Ongoing Column #09)
“How wonderful that we have met with a paradox. Now we have some hope of making progress”
— Niels Bohr
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/wider-lens/201906/the-tao-self-fulfillment
May 2019
(Ongoing Column #08)
I recently read The Art of Is: Improvising As A Way Of Life by Stephen Nachmanovitch (New World Library: Novato, Calif., 2019).
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/wider-lens/201904/the-ecology-improvisation
April 2019
(Ongoing Column #07)
Revisit how to create new possibilities.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/wider-lens/201903/change-is-always-changing
March 03, 2019
(Ongoing Column #06)
The benefits of managing stress through mindful breathing.
January 28, 2019
(Ongoing Column #05)
How can a loaf of bread help with understanding the complexity of relationships?
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/wider-lens/201901/love-the-word-is-not-the-thing