Publications (2022)

 
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In Pursuit of a "Harmonizing" Relationship

A Personal Perspective.

PSYCHOLOGY TODAY

November 1, 2022

Life is full of paradoxes, the source of humor, enlightenment, and, unfortunately, unenviable double binds. As an example, Partner A asks Partner B, "Do you love me,?" Partner B responds, "Yes," Partner A says, "Why do I have to ask you?"

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The Purpose of Conflict

Conflict can serve as the grist for emerging interpersonal creativity.

PSYCHOLOGY TODAY

September 12, 2022

A commonly held belief about being mindful in our relationships, attributed to Zen philosophy, is to have a "beginner's mind," especially when dealing with conflicts. This is no easy task, given that we are dealing with a multitude of increasingly adversarial standoffs threatening us and our world. Most individuals try to avoid conflict, or at the least view it negatively.

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The Value of “Warm Data”

How to curtail the fear and anxiety that engulfs us.

PSYCHOLOGY TODAY

July 22, 2022

My poem at the beginning of this article was motivated by the inspiring Unpsychology magazine’s summer 268-page issue about warm data. I highly recommend it (free download: https://www.unpsychology.org/). Included in this issue is an article of mine that is a response to the shared concerns of many families I am counseling, as well as my own social networks.* It addresses the many hurdles facing us regarding the intense polarization in our society, for which there seems to be little solution.

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Warm Data:

resolving injurious adaptations and encouraging awareness of our interdependencies

UNPSYCHOLOGY, Issue 8: An Anthology of Warm Data

Summer 2022

"IF YOU CAN RELATE TO OUR WORLD being an ecological process, one

where we and all non-human entities are interdependent, then it makes sense

to view the totality of nature as more than the sum of its parts — all have a

role in supporting our planet. Yet at Public School in Paterson, NJ, I was

taught that the whole was merely equal to the sum of its parts."

Anyone who wishes to download (for free) the whole 268 page issue, please use the link below.

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The Importance of the Aesthetic in Creativity

The aesthetic is the segue to being creative and well-being.

PSYCHOLOGY TODAY

May 28, 2022

In the mid-1970s, when I was a doctoral student in Columbia University's graduate program of Family and Community Studies (Anthropology and Psychology), my original research proposal was on how mindfulness and creativity can enhance relationships.

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Our Relationships as the Source of Improvisational Possibilities

That which is between us in an interdependent relationship.

PSYCHOLOGY TODAY

Mar 31, 2022

After 50 years of facilitating communication as an educator, therapist, and community organizer, I have witnessed many contexts where people merely maintain and/or sabotage relationships. Being a systems thinker interested in helping make a difference, I look for the relationships between those in any social system that may be experiencing discord.

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What Your Legacy Can Tell You

Implications for personal and community evolution.

PSYCHOLOGY TODAY

Feb 6, 2022

I am currently seeing an increasing interest with friends and those I work with to revisit family narratives. In my practice for the past forty years (which I recently figured out consists of over 50,000 sessions with several thousand individuals), I have been blessed to have had the opportunity to be part of facilitating many profound family narratives.

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Train Romance

by Dr. Ken Silvestri, Cat Weaver and Natasha Rabin

Publisher: BookBaby (paperback)

Jan 26, 2022

In this collection of poems and images, Cat Weaver, Ken Silvestri, and Natasha Rabin explore the enchantment trains can bring. Trains share in the big and small events of people's lives, and remembered moments in them are depicted here as haunting, bittersweet, quietly nostalgic, and gently comic.